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had an argument with teh gf. I don't see the point of marriage.
Everything you can do while married, you can do while not (except some rather minor things like insurance).
So what's the point?



/waiting for someone to tell me that the bible says so
 

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GBUS says you should!!


Marraige is so you can get less sex for more money!!
 

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If you wind up in the hospital for some reason and are not able to make a medical decision, a partner or girlfriend cannot make one for you unless you have a medical proxy established. She might want to be able to pull the plug on you.
 

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If you wind up in the hospital for some reason and are not able to make a medical decision, a partner or girlfriend cannot make one for you unless you have a medical proxy established. She might want to be able to pull the plug on you.
only if there is life insurance involved.
 

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If you wind up in the hospital for some reason and are not able to make a medical decision, a partner or girlfriend cannot make one for you unless you have a medical proxy established. She might want to be able to pull the plug on you.
living will ftw
 

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It's a way of saying "I believe in the power of us enough to give you at least half of my stuff if it doesn't work out".
Sort of a gambling-based contract I suppose, unless there's a pre-nup involved of course.
 

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no, i was expecting someone nutty. You actually don't preach to those who aren't interested :eek:ccasion14:
Well, I still proffer opinions and reasoning on occasion. But I try to keep from making people choke on it, though that usually means producing a beer to wash it down with.
 

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It's a way of saying "I believe in the power of us enough to give you at least half of my stuff if it doesn't work out".
Sort of a gambling-based contract I suppose, unless there's a pre-nup involved of course.
if it's a gamble, what do you win? half her stuff? :lmao:
 

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Nope, you can't do everything. Marriage shows a higher level of commitment then being bf/gf can.

Think about it, if you are going on a long group ride or to the track, who are you going to want to go with someone who puts nothing in and can walk away and leave you high and dry at any moment or a person that puts his/her time in and thus will stick with the plan?

Same with marriage. Hard to plan your life around when your partner hasn't committed to staying with you. Not saying couples have to get married and people can't be BF/GF for ever. More that both need to be on the same page for it to work.
 

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If you wind up in the hospital for some reason and are not able to make a medical decision, a partner or girlfriend cannot make one for you unless you have a medical proxy established. She might want to be able to pull the plug on you.
^ This...I back it from experience ;)

But you fishing for opinions, indicates to me that you or your relationship isn't to that level anyway. If it's truly love, and not some "I can put up with her crap and she can mine", marriage wouldn't be an issue. ;)
 

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Not only could a significant other not make medical decisions, in many cases, they might not be able to even see each other without family consent. This is the primary reason I support marriage equality.

I think a lot of people invest too much power in marriage (ladies in particular) in that they think that the act itself changes or makes things better when in reality its only a legal contract. So many seem to focus on some "perfect, fairy tale" wedding and then afterwards, it's like, oh, this is difficult.
 

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Legal issues are the main reason for marriage. In addition to the health decision issues, inheritance of your property, joint property issues and tax issues can all make a difference.
With the recent spate of anti-marriage bills aimed at limiting same sex marriage, some of the laws have been so poorly written as to imply, if not flat-out forbid, that non-married same sex couples have no legal status under the law. Have kids, but aren't married? Could be a problem depending on where you live. Some of the laws could also be interpreted as to prevent any legal relationship between unmarried couples, regardless of sex.
If you die and want your stuff going to your significant other, if you aren't married, he/she may well have no legal status and everything would go to other family members or be decided by them.
There are plenty of good reasons to get married. True, if things don't work out, it's harder to resolve the situation than just saying it's over and I'm out, but the legal issues addressed by marriage/divorce help address these situations and provide a society-approved mechanism to handle the breakup and disposition of assets.
Pluses and minuses considered, I personally feel that marriage has more pluses than minuses.

DISCLAIMER: My Wife and I will have been married 39 years this December. It hasn't always been perfect, but overall, I am thankful we are still together. Besides, although she worries about me getting injured, she encourages me to ride and tries to consider potential riding routes when planning vacations.
 

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Some good (and damn funny!) points. I tend to flip the question around. Why not get married? Especailly all these people with kids? Let's have a kid together, but get married?? Man that is just way too much commitment for me. I never understood that logic. I've heard people tell me "Marriage is just a piece of paper". Well if that's your attitude you are missing the point, and nothing I can say will help you.
 

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Discounts on a bunch of stuff and tax breaks. Its a higher level of commitment that most girls need to feel secure. Plus, if you ever have kids, its easier when both parents have the same last name.
 

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I'm just going to leave this here:

Pennsylvania: A common-law marriage was established if, before 1/1/2005, a man and woman exchanged words that indicated that they intended to be married at the present time and they also held themselves out to the community as married (introducing eachother as husband and wife, filing joint taxes, etc.).











Are you already married?! :eek:
 
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