Depends. Sometimes I pay, sometimes she pays, sometimes we split it. It all depends on the couple and the activity. Used to be that the guy paid. Now it's kind of a toss up.

 

Guy pays. She should at least offer to pay for something by the 3rd date, but you should politely decline the first time she offers. After she has offered to pay a 2nd time then you again politely decline, but offer it up that she can pay for the next date. It makes you look very "chivalrous" but yet still secure enough to let her pay for something, and if she's offering then it also doesnt make her look like a gold-digger.
If she hasnt offered to pay for something by the 4th date then I'd bounce- she's looking for a sugar-daddy.

 

dine and dash ftw!!!

 

;D

 

Tell her you'll pay but you left your wallet at home and can she lend you the money and also that you could maybe use another hundred "just in case" and you'll get it back to her at the end of next week, promise, because you know a guy who'll let you have some crystal meth you know where to sell for a good price.

 

Tell her you'll pay but you left your wallet at home and can she lend you the money and also that you could maybe use another hundred "just in case".

**** straight, a man needs a little pocket money...

 

I pay for everything. If she offers to pay, that just means she's hiding some income from me. Next thing you know, she'll want to buy stuff, too. Maybe even make unsupervised phone calls, or have "friends." Where would it end?

 

that's just.... creepy.

 

After three years, if the GF and I go out I always pay if it's dinner. It's just my way, she gets annoyed with it sometimes though. The only way she gets to pay for dinner is if she's cooking it.

Breakfast and lunch are open game, however.

 

If she is going to give me the happy ending then I will pay.

 

that works both ways you know...

 

Once it becomes a regular thing, they should alternate. In the beginning it's the guys job.

 

It also depends on the relative financial positions of the two. Peers is one thing, a lawyer dating a waiter/waitress is another.

 

Well that's the lawyers own problem because he knows what he's getting into, and probably wants to buy everything for her.

 

This isn't really an easy answer. It has to be an understanding between the two people. There's a big difference between expectation and reality.

I personally always offer to split or pay, because I'm independent and don't like being a mooch. I also make a decent salary and like to eat out at various restaurants, some inexpensive and other places quite expensive. I'm not going to ask a guy to take me to my favorite pricey restaurant and expect him to go broke paying for it. Very often, the guy insists on paying and I'm OK with that as long as I get to reciprocate at some point and he's not in a financially tough situation. The whole chivalry thing can be taken too far.

It's about compromise. I think it's rude to make a guy spend all of his money, even if he expects to, on dating when I'm perfectly capable of sharing my income as well. I also hate feeling like I owe the guy something for letting him buy me dinner.

 

This isn't really an easy answer. It has to be an understanding between the two people. There's a big difference between expectation and reality.

I personally always offer to split or pay, because I'm a fackin' baller and can buy and sell all of yours @sses. I don't need a man and I will let him know that by buying up everything I can in front of him to show him my attetion will NOT be bought.

Men should be paying to get an opportunity to spend time with me, because I'm just that facking awesome.

If you can't hang with my bank account, don't even bother talking to me.

peace out, b!tches

Fixed.

 

:roflmao:

 

Here's frick and papa enjoying a "special moment". ;D

 

Wow....











,...it's my ultimate fantasy to come to life. :*(

 

I have been with my wife for 17 years, so I have been out of the game a long time. But if I asked her out, I paid. If she asked me to do something I still tried to pay and would only split it at the most if she insisted. But then again I still open the door for her, hold her coat, etc. I guess I am old school .

 

When dating over a plate of Bacon, I always go dutch unless I ate it all while she wasn't looking.

 

Whom ever asks the other to do the activity should be willing to offer up the payment first.

 

I've been with Jessi now for ten months. We're stable and are making long term plans. I usually pay, as I'm used to it, but I'll often call her and say, "Where are you taking me tonight?"

On those nights, every thing is on her dime.

 

You just come out and say that to her out of the blue?

 

He's got a strong pimp hand, it seems.

 

I was thinking swordfight... not that I think about stuff like that.

 

Just when it comes to me and Jack?

 

Well yeah...

 

take turns. that bike doesnt pay for itself

 

1st date, you pay, and feel up her boobies

second date, you pay and you get head

third date, you pay and get to the sexin'

it's generally best to skip the first 2 dates ;D

 

;D

 

TJD--

Me thinks you're doing something wrong. Only one girl has EVAR made me wait that long.

And I plan on marrying her.

 

TJD--

Me thinks you're doing something wrong. Only one girl has EVAR made me wait that long.

And I plan on marrying her.

it was just a general guideline, your results may vary

 

As a general rule, men always pay on the first date. Like Dack says, you're hoping the woman offers to pay, as it shows that she's down to earth and not greedy. If the date is going well, this also gives you the opportunity to use the old "you can pay next time" line, implying that there will be a next time, and thus reinforcing your "i'll call you soon" line at the dates endpoint. This also smoothes out the rest of the evening as you can judge her reaction to your line, and there is then less awkwardness at the end of the night about whether you are both interested in a second date or not.

On the subsequent date, pay again in spite of her recall of the line about how she can pay the next time. Then, let her pay the third time if she offers again. It shows she is not a gold digger, and she will value the chance to show her independence and establish a bit of equality in the relationship.

 

Will this line work?

"Sooo I'm paying for dinner, that means I get sex right?"

 

Just pick up the menu and start writing acts next to the courses depending on cost. You don't even want to see what the lobster gets.