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So, as many of you probably remember, I was recently married. Dec. 20th to my wife who I shared an interest in riding (she's the one who has the GSX-R, we had the motorcycle cake toppers).

Anyway, she's been acting the fool lately. A couple weeks ago after we both got off work from Applebee's one night. She was supposedly on the way home to get our children from her parents house (right next door to our house) and go to bed. I was no more than 5 minutes behind her (putting on my gear as she was leaving the parking lot). Well, long story short, instead of making the three block trip home, she disappeared until 9 o'clock the next morning. Not answering phone calls or text messages. Needless to say I was worried shitless because she gave no indication that she was going anywhere but home. I went as far as calling all the hospitals and police to help find her.

Her story is that she went to a party with some of her old friends. Her old friends are the ones that she used to partake in her Meth addiction for 3 years of our relationship behind my back. Needless to say I was ******. We almost lost our children when we all found out about the Meth use when she was having our third child. You'll never know the feeling of being a villian as when I was sitting in the hospital after telling the nurses that we don't do drugs (as far as I knew up to that point, we didn't). Either way, by the grace of god, we were able to keep the kids based on her going through a rehabilitation program and counselling. Everything was going great until about two weeks ago.

She begged for a second chance to fix things after the incident two weeks ago. I accepted (stupid me), more for our children's sake (we have two little girls together 5 and 2, and she has a 10 year old son from a previous relationship who calls me dad. I'm the only father figure he's had in his life since he was 4 and who knows how long before that).

About the same time as the incident two weeks ago, I found out (by my own means) that she had come in contact with her previous boyfriend (and fellow Methhead) who resides in Kansas, and was talking with him behind my back. When confronted she said it was nothing. Well, the other night (Thursday) she gets this text message that I happen to read over her shoulder that says "I love you." I immediately confronted her about it and she says it was from some creep on "Facebox" or some other networking site. I was skeptical...

Which leads me to last night. I came home from work and decided to check her phone as she was asleep (she IS my wife afterall). I come across an IM from her to the same screen name that sent the previous amourous text the other night. It reads;

"Hey baby, I'm going to bed because I have to get up early. I love you. I will try and call you tomorrow sometime."

So I immediately rouse her from sleep and confront her about it. After some circle talk on her part, she tells me that it is her ex-boyfriend (mentioned previously). Needless to say, that's the end of my marriage only 9 weeks old. My first priority is finding a place for my daughters and I. Really just posted this up to vent and maybe get a bit of moral support (God knows I'm gonna need it.) Sorry it's so long.

Cliff's notes: Soon to be ex-wife is a lying *****.
 

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I'm sorry to hear you got burned like that! It's just awful and especially your little ones don't deserve it! Not saying you do in anyway. I just can't imagine you scenario!

The only advise I have for you-

Take care of them kids and give them the life they deserve and need! Be the best dad you can and don't settle for less!

Hang in there!!!
 

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holy ish dude that's nutts. At least you're finding out now and now years down the road...my condolences for the death of your relationship.
 

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Dang man, that's rough. I can sympathize with you some since my ex-fiance was also a cheating *****. I hope everything works out for you in the best possible way, whatever that may end up being.
 

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I was going to suggest some alternatives, but after re-reading your post, you gotta think of

1. Your kids
2. Yourself

and not try to salvage your wife. There are irredeemable people in this world. She may be one. Good luck and I hope your kids' love gives you strength and resolve you'll need to get through this.
 

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Meth is very hard habit to break. Get out now and never look back.
 

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Wow I'm sorry to hear about that man. You seem like you got the right idea though, but I can understand how hard it to try and keep a level head. I hope everything works out ok for you.
 

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Better to find out soon, than to find out later.
This is one of those disguised blessings.
Best of luck to you and your children.
 

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Better to find out soon, than to find out later.
This is one of those disguised blessings.
Best of luck to you and your children.

Too bad he couldn't have found out 10 weeks ago...

But man, that sucks. Do what you gotta do for the kids, as your (soon to be ex-) wife surely doesn't care much about them.
 

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Moral support X eleventy bazillion.

Meth is the absolute worst drug out there. The sad part is she probably doesn't love the ex-boyfriend, she just loves the drugs.

Dump her and don't look back. Good luck to you and the kids.
 

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Sorry to hear about your predicament. Best of luck to you and your kids man. Get them as far away from her as possible. Take care.
 

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Dude, she rides a GSXR. That should've been your first clue.

(I make jokes. It's a defense mechanism.)
 

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Best of Luck with the custody fight, the kids and you deserve better. Do anything and everything you can to get and keep them. Sorry about the circumstances leading up to this.
 

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Dude, she rides a GSXR. That should've been your first clue.

(I make jokes. It's a defense mechanism.)
You had to earn that title in your sig somehow...

Acid, I hope everything works out. That sounds like a terrible situation to be in and an impossible on for the kids (divorce vs. mom doing drugs/infidelity).
 

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Man that's a shame. I agree with these guys and think you are doing the right thing ended it. Good luck with the custody. They don't always do the smart thing in those cases, so I really hope it works out for you the way it should.

Just a little side advice; just because she is your wife doesn't give you the right to read her personal stuff (phone messages, emails etc.). In your case I would say it was warranted with all the suspicious activity, but in a healthy relationship you are asking for trouble doing stuff like that.
 

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but in a healthy relationship you are asking for trouble doing stuff like that.
Lol, I'll keep that in mind for my next relationship. ;)

I want to thank everybody for thier support and words of encouragement. I came to the realization yesterday that this was not going to be easy. But I know it's the right thing to do in the long run.
 
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